I’ve been talking to a lot of parents who are seriously freaking out about having kids at home all day. With the coronavirus COVID-19 pandemic, lots of us are struggling to keep ourselves sane while parenting 24/7, often with no help and no relief in sight.
This is a stressful, unusual time.
We can take it hour by hour. No need to make a commitment to long-term coaching. Let’s just go day by day and get you through this.
Triple-Duty: working, parenting, and teaching
It’s rough right now. Coronavirus COVID-19 restrictions have upended our lives. Almost all parents have had their schedules completely thrown out the window. And while some of us are dealing with job losses and fear lack of income, others are expected to work productively at home even while their kids are home. This means we’re doing triple duty: working (or worrying about not having work), parenting, and teaching.
Parents have tremendous stress right now. How can we stay sane and keep our kids thriving? Many parents were already struggling with the burdens of parenting, and now it’s so much harder.
Here are some of the questions parents are facing with coronavirus social distancing:
- How can I work productively if my kids are at home?
- How can I parent effectively when I’m supposed to be working?
- My kids are driving me absolutely crazy
- Am I supposed to be home schooling my kids during coronavirus?
- My kids are bored out of their minds with social distancing
- Can I have my kids’ grandparents look after them?
- How can I possibly do all of this?
There are no easy answers right now, but one thing we do know for sure is that parenting alone in a vacuum is much harder than having some support. Even if you’ve never tried coaching before, now might be a good time to get some help.
Amy was just getting used to her empty nest when coronavirus hit. Her oldest is in his third year of college, and her youngest just started college in May. Now they are both back home. They both happen to have sweethearts who grew up in the area and are also back with their parents for coronavirus.
So the question is: how does Amy make sure her kids are doing their college work and staying safe? Should she let them go back and forth to their sweethearts’ houses or force them to pick one or the other? How can she set boundaries with these young adults who should be at college, living an independent life? Tensions are high, and Amy feels like she’s failing every day that they are trapped at home together.
Parent coaching gives Amy a place where she can talk about how hard this is, and then we can do some role-playing and problem-solving so that she can build the best possible environment during coronavirus social distancing. It’s not easy, but she’s feeling better and more confident about her choices now.
Brianna has three kids under 7, a full-time job, and a husband who works full-time. They usually rely on daycare and school and run an efficient household. But things are completely upside down now. Brianna and her husband are both working from home, but that leaves the kids either fighting in front of the TV or hanging onto their parents. It’s been frustrating and unproductive.
Parent coaching gives Brianna a place where she can actively problem-solve and figure out how she and her husband can structure their days while in this unusual situation. They started by creating a work space and setting up a schedule to help them coordinate work, meals, and childcare. There is very little wiggle room, but they are making it work, hopefully for a limited time.
Alice and her husband have already been through a lot. Their daughter was diagnosed with an eating disorder last year and struggles with anxiety and depression. Their marriage hasn’t been doing great. Alice already felt like she was hanging by a thread emotionally when coronavirus social distancing went into place. Now it’s even harder as her whole family is stuck inside with limited social outlets. The stress often feels palpable, and Alice worries their daughter will have a relapse.
Parent coaching gives Alice an opportunity to get an outside perspective on what’s working and what’s not working in their house right now. Alice suffers from her own anxieties, and the possibility that she may lose her income as a result of coronavirus hangs over her head. She finds coaching soothing and relaxing. It’s a way for her to reconnect with her best self so that she can continue to work in this difficult environment.
Coronavirus requires advanced parenting skills
Parenting is hard for everyone. But coronavirus fears and social distancing are making it much, much harder. Now is the time to try and stay steady in the face of tremendous stress.