My Favorite Books

I have a serious love of reading. Reading makes me happy. Here are just some of the books that inform and guide my work.


  • The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence by Jessica Lahey
  • In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Mate Md and Peter A. Levine
  • This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life by Annie Grace


  • Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD: A Scientifically Proven Program for Parents by Eli R. Lebowitz
  • Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls by Lisa Damour Ph.D.
  • Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children by Lynn Lyons and Reid Wilson
  • Treating Childhood and Adolescent Anxiety: A Guide for Caregivers by Eli Lebowitz and Haim Omer
  • Future Tense: Why Anxiety is Good for You (Even Though it Feels Bad) by Tracy Dennis-Tiwary
  • The Scaffold Effect: Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant, and Secure Kids in an Age of Anxiety by Harold S. Koplewicz
  • The New Adolescence: Raising Happy and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety and Distraction by Christine Carter


  • Nourished: Connection, Food, and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) by Deborah MacNamara PhD
  • Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté
  • Raising Parents: Attachment, Representation, and Treatment by Patricia M. Crittenden
  • The Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children by Shefali Tsabary

Body Respect

  • The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor
  • More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament by Lexie Kite and Lindsay Kite
  • Body Positive Power: Because Life Is Already Happening and You Don’t Need Flat Abs to Live It by Megan Jayne Crabbe
  • Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight by Lindo Bacon and Lucy Aphramor
  • The Art of Body Acceptance: Strengthen Your Relationship with Yourself Through Therapeutic Creative Exercises by Ashlee Bennett
  • What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon

Co-occurring Diagnoses

  • The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them by Elaine N. Aron
  • Unmasking Autism by Devon Price
  • ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction by John Ratey and Edward Hallowell
  • Getting Ahead of ADHD by Joel T. Nigg
  • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It by Gabor Maté
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul T. T. Mason and Randi Kreger
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents: How to Help Your Child (of Any Age) with Borderline Personality Disorder without Losing Yourself by Randi Kreger, Christine Adamec, and Daniel S. Lobel

Eating Disorders

  • Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationship with Food Through Myths, Metaphors, and Storytelling by Anita A. Johnston
  • Famished: Eating Disorders and Failed Care in America by Rebecca J. Lester
  • What’s Eating Us: Women, Food, and the Epidemic of Body Anxiety by Cole Kazdin
  • Sick Enough: A Guide to the Medical Complications of Eating Disorders by Jennifer L. Gaudiani
  • 8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder: Effective Strategies from Therapeutic Practice and Personal Experience by Carolyn Costin and Gwen Schubert Grabb
  • Anorexia and Other Eating Disorders: How to Help Your Child Eat Well and Be Well by Eva Musby
  • When Your Teen Has an Eating Disorder: Practical Strategies to Help Your Teen Recover from Anorexia, Bulimia, and Binge Eating by Lauren Muhlheim and Laura Collins Lyster-Mensh


  • Nourished: Connection, Food, and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) by Deborah MacNamara PhD
  • Your Child’s Weight: Helping Without Harming by Ellyn Satter
  • How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder: A Simple, Plate-by-Plate Approach to Rebuilding a Healthy Relationship with Food by Casey Crosbie and Wendy Sterling
  • Intuitive Eating, 4th Edition: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch
  • Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, how to Raise Good Eaters, how to Cook by Ellyn Satter
  • The Eating Instinct: Food Culture, Body Image, and Guilt in America by Virginia Sole-Smith
  • Born to Eat: Whole, Healthy Foods from Baby’s First Bite by Wendy Jo Peterson and Leslie Schilling
  • Food Isn’t Medicine: Challenge Nutribolocks & Escape the Diet Trap by Joshua Wolrich


  • Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss
  • Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown
  • StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath
  • WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game by Abby Wambach
  • The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz
  • Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap…And Others Don’t by Jim Collins
  • Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown


  • The Love Prescription: 7 Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman
  • The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work by Eli J Finkel
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman
  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
  • The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
  • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
  • Divorce Poison New and Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing by Richard A. Warshak
  • Internal Family Systems Couple Therapy Skills Manual: Healing Relationships with Intimacy From the Inside Out by Toni Herbine-Blank


  • What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo
  • Furiously Happy: A Funny Book About Horrible Things by Jenny Lawson
  • Untamed by Glennon Doyle
  • Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb
  • Educated: a Memoir by Tara Westover
  • Troubled: The Failed Promise of America’s Behavioral Treatment Programs by Kenneth R. Rosen
  • Wild Game: My Mother, Her Secret, and Me by Adrienne Brodeur
  • Unbound: My Story of Liberation and the Birth of the Me Too Movement by Tarana Burke

Mental Health/Psychology

  • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff
  • Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them by Tina Gilbertson
  • No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz 
  • The Mind and The Moon: My Brother’s Story, The Science of Our Brains, And The Search For Our Psyches by Daniel Bergner
  • Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price
  • Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
  • Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb
  • Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism That Masks Your Depression by Margaret Robinson Rutherford
  • The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT by Russ Harris and Steven C. Hayes
  • Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns
  • It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand by Megan Devine
  • Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
  • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown


  • Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence – The Groundbreaking Meditation Practice by Daniel J. Siegel
  • Trusting the Gold: Uncovering Your Natural Goodness by Tara Brach
  • Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
  • The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz 
  • The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer


  • Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel
  • Motherhood: Facing and Finding Yourself by Lisa Marchiano
  • Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Karyl McBride


  • Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids by Mona Delahooke
  • The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
  • Beyond Behaviors: Effective Neuroscience-based Tools to Transform Childhood Behaviors by Dr. Mona Delahooke
  • What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry
  • The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
  • Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices by Deb Dana
  • Livewired: The Inside Story of the Ever-Changing Brain by David Eagleman
  • Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality: Evolution, Culture, and Wisdom by Darcia Narvaez


  • Parenting a Teen Who Has Intense Emotions: DBT Skills to Help Your Teen Navigate Emotional & Behavioral Challenges by Pat Harvey and Britt Rathbone
  • Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach by Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley
  • The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes by Diane Ehrensaft 
  • Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child: Practical Tips and Tools to Heal Your Relationship by Tina Gilbertson
  • Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman PhD and Daniel Goleman
  • Teach Your Children Well: Why Values and Coping Skills Matter More Than Grades, Trophies, or “Fat Envelopes” by Madeline Levine PhD
  • Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen by Michelle Icard
  • The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence by Rachel Simmons
  • How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
  • Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen
  • How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims
  • Get Out of My Life, But First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall?: A Parent’s Guide to the New Teenager by Anthony E. Wolf

Social Justice

  • Radical Belonging: How to Survive and Thrive in an Unjust World (While Transforming it for the Better) by Lindo Bacon 
  • You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar
  • My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
  • Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Sabrina Strings
  • What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon


  • The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust by Claudia M. Gold and Ed Tronick
  • The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
  • Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner
  • Trapped in the Mirror by Elan Golomb
  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
  • How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo
  • The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout


  • The Practical Guide for Healing Developmental Trauma: Using the NeuroAffective Relational Model to Address Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resolve Complex Trauma by Laurence Heller and Brad J. Kammer
  • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel A. van der Kolk
  • The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté with Daniel Maté
  • The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris
  • When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Gabor Maté
  • A Bright Red Scream by Marilee Strong


  • Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture by Virginia Sole-Smith
  • Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight by Lindo Bacon
  • Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating by Christy Harrison
  • The Diet Survivor’s Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance and Self-Care by Judith Matz and Ellen Frankel
  • Body Kindness: Transform Your Health from the Inside Out – and Never Say Diet Again by Rebecca Scritchfield