My Favorite Books

I have a serious love of reading. It’s my hobby and a powerful form of stress relief. Reading makes me happy. Here are just some of my favorite books that inform and guide my work with parents.

Addiction

  • The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence by Jessica Lahey
  • In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Mate Md and Peter A. Levine
  • This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life by Annie Grace

Attachment

  • Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté
  • Raising Parents: Attachment, Representation, and Treatment by Patricia M. Crittenden
  • The Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children by Shefali Tsabary

Body Respect

  • Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight by Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramor
  • The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor
  • More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament by Lexie Kite and Lindsay Kite
  • Body Positive Power: Because Life Is Already Happening and You Don’t Need Flat Abs to Live It by Megan Jayne Crabbe
  • The Art of Body Acceptance: Strengthen Your Relationship with Yourself Through Therapeutic Creative Exercises by Ashlee Bennett
  • What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon

Eating Disorders

  • Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationship with Food Through Myths, Metaphors, and Storytelling by Anita A. Johnston
  • Famished: Eating Disorders and Failed Care in America by Rebecca J. Lester
  • Sick Enough: A Guide to the Medical Complications of Eating Disorders by Jennifer L. Gaudiani
  • 8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder: Effective Strategies from Therapeutic Practice and Personal Experience by Carolyn Costin and Gwen Schubert Grabb
  • When Your Teen Has an Eating Disorder: Practical Strategies to Help Your Teen Recover from Anorexia, Bulimia, and Binge Eating by Lauren Muhlheim and Laura Collins Lyster-Mensh

Feeding/Eating

  • Your Child’s Weight: Helping Without Harming by Ellyn Satter
  • How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder: A Simple, Plate-by-Plate Approach to Rebuilding a Healthy Relationship with Food by Casey Crosbie and Wendy Sterling
  • Intuitive Eating, 4th Edition: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach by Tribole, Evelyn, and Resch, Elyse
  • The Eating Instinct: Food Culture, Body Image, and Guilt in America by Virginia Sole-Smith

Leadership/Management/Negotiation

  • Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss and Tahl Raz
  • Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown
  • StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath
  • WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game by Abby Wambach
  • The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz
  • Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap…And Others Don’t by Jim Collins
  • Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown

Marriage

  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman
  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
  • The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
  • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
  • Divorce Poison New and Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing by Richard A. Warshak
  • Internal Family Systems Couple Therapy Skills Manual: Healing Relationships with Intimacy From the Inside Out by Toni Herbine-Blank

Memoirs

  • Furiously Happy: A Funny Book About Horrible Things by Jenny Lawson
  • Untamed by Glennon Doyle
  • Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb
  • Educated: a Memoir by Tara Westover
  • Troubled: The Failed Promise of America’s Behavioral Treatment Programs by Kenneth R. Rosen

Mental Health/Psychology

  • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff
  • No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz 
  • Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price
  • Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
  • Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb
  • Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism That Masks Your Depression by Margaret Robinson Rutherford
  • The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT by Russ Harris and Steven C. Hayes
  • Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns
  • It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand by Megan Devine
  • Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
  • Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It by Gabor Maté
  • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown

Mindfulness

  • Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence – The Groundbreaking Meditation Practice by Daniel J. Siegel
  • Trusting the Gold: Uncovering Your Natural Goodness by Tara Brach
  • Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
  • The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz 
  • The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer

Motherhood

  • Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel
  • Motherhood: Facing and Finding Yourself by Lisa Marchiano
  • Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Karyl McBride

Neurobiology

  • The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
  • Livewired: The Inside Story of the Ever-Changing Brain by David Eagleman
  • The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
  • Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality: Evolution, Culture, and Wisdom by Darcia Narvaez

Parenting

  • Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD: A Scientifically Proven Program for Parents by Eli R. Lebowitz
  • The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them by Elaine N. Aron
  • Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls by Lisa Damour Ph.D.
  • Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach by Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley
  • The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes by Diane Ehrensaft 
  • Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child: Practical Tips and Tools to Heal Your Relationship by Tina Gilbertson
  • Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman PhD and Daniel Goleman
  • The New Adolescence: Raising Happy and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety and Distraction by Christine Carter
  • Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen by Michelle Icard
  • The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence by Rachel Simmons
  • Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children by Lynn Lyons and Reid Wilson
  • How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
  • Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen
  • Get Out of My Life, But First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall?: A Parent’s Guide to the New Teenager by Anthony E. Wolf

Social Justice

  • Radical Belonging: How to Survive and Thrive in an Unjust World (While Transforming it for the Better) by Lindo Bacon 
  • You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar
  • My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
  • Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Sabrina Strings
  • What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon

Relationships

  • The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust by Claudia M. Gold and Ed Tronick
  • The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
  • Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner
  • Trapped in the Mirror by Elan Golomb
  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
  • How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo
  • The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout

Trauma

  • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel A. van der Kolk
  • The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris
  • When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Gabor Maté
  • A Bright Red Scream by Marilee Strong

Weight/Diets

  • Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight by Linda Bacon
  • Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating by Christy Harrison
  • The F*ck It Diet: Eating Should Be Easy by Caroline Dooner
  • The Diet Survivor’s Handbook: 60 Lessons in Eating, Acceptance and Self-Care by Judith Matz and Ellen Frankel
  • Body Kindness: Transform Your Health from the Inside Out – and Never Say Diet Again by Rebecca Scritchfield