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Parent Coaching For When Your Child is Challenging

If your child (young or adult) is challenging, and if you’re struggling to parent (or even like) them, then parent coaching is a great solution.

All kids and parents go through difficult times, but some kids are simply more challenging. There can be lots of reasons for this, but often it comes down to high sensitivity and low emotional regulation. Difficult children may:

  • Have a diagnosis such as ADHD, OCD, ODD, ASD, addiction, an eating disorder, etc.
  • Have a history of colic, separation anxiety, tantrums, and other challenging childhood behaviors
  • Express constant anger towards you
  • Be estranged from you
  • Be financially dependent on you and/or unhappily living with you into adulthood and blame you for their problems
  • Be withdrawn from your relationship, refusing or unable to connect with you
  • Tell you they are considering suicide or using self-harm behaviors
  • Say they were/are being harassed or abused
  • Be completely isolated from peers, spending all their time alone or on their computer/phone
  • Tell you they are traumatized by their childhood

Most “difficult children” are dealing with some combination of high sensitivity and/or emotional dysregulation. They may also have something called complex trauma, which is also called developmental or relational trauma. And the good news is that nobody is in a better position to help a difficult child feel better than you!

I can teach you proven methods so your child will start to feel a lot better around you, deepen your connection, and improve your relationship in every way. Life will get better for everyone!

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Lots of parents struggle

It’s very normal for parents to struggle with parenting. It can feel hard to connect, and you may feel afraid of what will happen to them, both in the short and long term.

Challenging children mean that parenting is a struggle. The first thing we’ll do in parent coaching for a difficult child is try to find out what their behavior is trying to tell you. Most times, difficult children want to connect with their parents, but something is getting in the way.

We will try to get to the bottom of their struggle, and find ways for you to communicate more effectively and less painfully.

Coaching can help

Parent coaching for a difficult child is a way for you to learn some new parenting techniques and gain confidence as a parent. Popular media like books, magazines and social media combined with friends and family are often helpful when it comes to parenting a more typical child. But if you have a difficult child you may benefit from more strategic support.

We’ll explore your child’s history as well as what’s going on now. Coaching gives you a safe space in which to vent and describe your child and how much it troubles you. You’ll get a shame-free environment where you can share how hard it feels to parent your child right now.

Next, we’ll work to figure out some new boundaries, expectations and behaviors that can help make parenting easier. The good news is that when we adjust your beliefs and behavior, your child will often change theirs. Often we’ll see a very difficult child begin to open up a bit more as they find more peace and healing with you.

You are never to blame for your child’s difficult behavior, but we can find ways that you can influence their behavior for the better. This will make parenting much more relaxing and enjoyable.

What you get with parent coaching for a difficult child

🌟 Information: Find out more about your child’s condition.

❤️ Understanding: Learn how you can help your child by knowing more about what’s going on for them.

🌟 Scripts: Get some help learning how to talk to your child about their behavior. Above all, know how not to talk to your child about their behavior.

❤️ Techniques: Learn new techniques for parenting in challenging situations, including setting boundaries and empathic listening.

🌟 Recommendations: Get recommendations for articles, books, and resources. These will help you build up your child’s self-esteem and improve their behavior.

Parent coaching can make an immediate impact on how it feels to parent a difficult child. While there is a lot of advice for parenting more typical children, parents can feel adrift when things go wrong. Parent coaching can make things easier for you, your difficult child, and your whole family.

Most parents feel more confident in just a few sessions. Of course, we can continue working together as long as it’s helpful for you.

But aren’t you an eating disorder coach?

Yes! My primary focus as a parent coach is helping parents deal with eating disorders. And eating disorders almost always coincide with other difficult behaviors, high sensitivity, low emotional regulation, and complex trauma. So I’ve been trained to support parents who have highly sensitive children with poor emotional regulation skills and complex trauma. This knowledge is something I teach all parents who work with me, whether there is an eating disorder or not. If you’re not sure I’m a fit for your unique situation, feel free to reach out and let’s find out!